Touch Me, Baby! (Part III of IV)

By November 6, 2017Activism, My Blog

Not so long ago I was staying in a wonderful place called Temenos in McGregor, South Africa (where I wrote the opening 5 chapters of my first book which will be published in 2018). The resident cat and I really had a cool bond. We were so affectionate and cuddly with each other. Thing is, I never checked to see if it had a penis or a vagina before showering it with lots of love. What did it matter?Why can’t we humans show the same affection to each other, men or women, without it becoming something sexual? Or judged? Love is free. Love is love. Feel free. It’s precious and beautiful.

Over the last year I been on a journey at the tail end of a 5 year period of pain and suffering. Among the many beautiful discoveries during that time is a whole new language of touch and affection I never knew existed or was possible.

It would come in many shapes and forms, but largely thanks to Acro Yoga and Jivamukti yoga, I have learned that consensual and respectful human touch is an essential and deeply sacred part of human life. It’s healthy. There’s even a certified clinic in Portland Oregon, called “Cuddle Up To Me,”[i] which has offered more than 120,000 professional cuddling minutes to those suffering from lack of touch on a daily basis. Lack of touch leads to disease. [ii] [iii]

It’s sad to think of how many people go through a whole day without being noticed, without being touched, or acknowledged. Go out today and look into someone’s eyes and share some warmth with them. A smile. A hug (please ask first). It can have such a big impact. And it doesn’t matter the gender mix. Man to man. Man to woman. Woman to man. Woman to woman.

I do it often. And no, I don’t want to sleep with you.

Much love x

“With great love, all is possible” Sharon Gannon






About Bodhi

In conventional speak, John McInroy is a South-African born social activist, humanitarian, social entrepreneur, ultra endurance athlete, international field hockey player, actor and vegan yogi. In more authentic terms, Bodhi is a human you may see walking the streets barefoot trying to find new ways to tread as lightly as possible.


  • Garth says:

    Fantastic article – so true. Thank you x

  • Jess says:

    Found a beautiful quote yesterday which is kind of cool how applicable it is for here…

    Find people *through* Love.

    Much love to you x

  • Sadia Chand says:

    When we had our first serendipitous encounter, stranger to stranger, you greeted me with a warm, open face, and we shared a beautiful, loving hug. So natural, so caring, so absolutely perfect. And most importantly, no sense of threat, or danger. I will always remember how wonderful our meeting made me feel. Thank you Bodhi xxx

  • Jim Eshelman says:

    How can one foster Affection…”without it becoming sexual”? This seems the critical question. My answer that it is from culture, from a control-oriented Patriarchy seems to simple a response.
    Is this issue simple or complex? I’ll vote “complex”, and I remain befuddled how it can be addressed.
    But open to additional musing from any

    Namaste Mr. Bodhi!

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