We are all doing our best

By March 15, 2017My Blog

I realized something quite profound from spending time with Amal, a beautiful friend of mines 4 year old daughter from Denmark (who doesn’t speak English yet and I don’t speak Danish) and my close friends’ (from Ireland & Chile) son Tiago who is approaching 11 weeks on this earth who doesn’t speak at all!

I have always been focusing on the crying and shitting and how much I would hate to have kids right now to notice the wisdom that we can access from them that is right in front of us.

I have realized that the most pure practitioners of the present moment are babies and young children. Like the beautiful Sinethemba story in this previous blog

“It is the most beautiful moment in ones life when there is neither confusion nor certainty. One simply is a mirror reflecting that which is. With no direction to go anywhere, with no idea of doing something, with no future just utterly in the moment, tremendously in the moment” Osho

So the question I want to ask ourselves today – at one point do we stop experiencing the wonder of the present moment and begin to take other people’s words as the truth which I believe is the simple way to explain a lot of weird shit that has somehow become the accepted norm in the world we live in.

I’m actually laughing out loud right now. The other day (and quite regularly), friends who I hadn’t seen for a few years were asking me about my vegetarian, vegan, yoga tendencies “when and why did you become weird?!” I’m laughing because is it me or them that is weird?

When we are a baby like Tiago just out of the warm cozy womb we are thrust into chaos and all we have to navigate are our senses.

We are one and connected with everything. Animals, birds, people, the earth around us – we don’t know the difference between a black man and a white man, or even a woman and a man, or a dog and a chicken or a cow. Close your eyes and try imagine yourself with a baby’s mind experiencing these things for the first time and how it must feel.

Then suddenly we are brainwashed without experiencing it ourselves or it making any sense that a black man is dangerous compared to a white man and it is therefore for the best we live like this (Apartheid in South Africa, Jim Crow in USA etc etc), we must feel compassion for dogs and cats and how we treat animals is mark of a good person and society, but it’s ok to commit atrocities akin to what history refers to as the Holocaust in Nazi Germany by setting up concentration camps for cows, pigs, sheep and chicken every day?

Best of all; we have been brainwashed to the extent that the people who don’t want to take others people’s words for it and want to make their own mind up according to what is right in front of them, they are the weird ones ? The ones showing compassion and empathy are weird, really?!

In American rapper accent “what daaaa fuck?!”

We are being taught from a young age, at schools, by our parents to take other people’s words for it as the truth.

“Truth cannot be transferred,
truth cannot be handed over to you by somebody else, because it is not a
commodity. It is not a thing, it is an experience.” Osho

I can distinctly remember as a kid questioning one or two things – like the animal thing. And when it started to get confusing I just found comfort in the belief that people are good and we would have found the best and most gentle way to live. I believed that eating animals and the way it was done was a “necessary evil” as without it we would die and we wouldn’t be able to do the good things on earth we were here for. Surely we must have exhausted every other option possible and this must have been what everyone agreed to be the best! I can remember having a conversation with my dad about Apartheid that sounded similar – that (white) people at the time were led to believe it was a “necessary evil”. I know now that is total bullshit. But it has taken me a long time to realize this.

Unfortunately most things are the way they are, not because they are the way to tread as gently as possible on this earth but they are the way that has made the human race as powerful as possible over all other beings driven by fear and greed.

Amal (she’s vegan and healthy and beautiful. How weird is she?!) before she eats something checks with her ma if there are any animals inside because she doesn’t like to eat animals. Imagine this conversation between Ditte, her wonderful mother and 4 year old Amal:

A: “Ma, is there any animals inside this ?”
D: “it’s ok Amal, it’s a only a cow so it’s fine”.
A: “Phew I thought it might have been a dog and I couldn’t live with myself if I ate a dog”.

It’s basically the same as saying:

“Phew it’s only a black man. Jolly good – can you pass the salt? For a second I thought I may have caused harm to a white person how awful would that be”.

Food for thought. Literally!

I also do know, and this was expressed so graciously by my Irish mother Marie yesterday when she said, “we are all doing our best” and telling someone what to do, even if the intentions are beautiful and you cannot believe why they can’t see what you see is a waste of time and energy and will often close people off even more to a new horizon. After all they are just doing their best. We all are.

Tread softly and compassionately and allow each person to take their own path. The more we connect with the present moment and ourselves again, the more we will experience oneness with others and the world around us and make our way back home to where we were right at the start.

Just like Amal and Tiago. With love to you both and to you all. May light and love line your path.

Ps. Tiago – Amal is really pretty and awesome and only a few years older than you so keep an eye out for her!

With Javi (Tiago’s mommy), Marie (my Irish mommy), Tiago and Faldo (the doggy) outside an epic cafe in Greystones, Dublin.

“Love yourself just as you are, to sense your worthiness and wellbeing, to trust this world, to hold yourself in compassion, to meet the suffering and ignorance of others with compassion.”

Jack Kornfield


About Bodhi

In conventional speak, John McInroy is a South-African born social activist, humanitarian, social entrepreneur, ultra endurance athlete, international field hockey player, actor and vegan yogi. In more authentic terms, Bodhi is a human you may see walking the streets barefoot trying to find new ways to tread as lightly as possible.


  • Michéle Mansor says:

    I wonder when are you coming to Brazil ?? Expecting you here for yoga ( I am in that weirdeness too), hiking in the mountains , cooking vegetarian meals and long walks on the beach!! Miss you a lot!

    • John says:

      Michele – I’m smiling at your weirdness comment! Let’s keep rocking our weirdness! Just seeing your name lifts my spirits and makes me feel so grateful to have met you and experienced your wonderful spirit! Thank you for giving so much! Your kindness travels far! And I would love to visit you in Brazil. I have met so many wonderful people from your country! We are one!

  • Shelley says:

    Being present! What a beautiful experience.. All the best with your journey x

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