We are all the authors

By December 24, 2017My Blog

We are all the authors

We are all the authors of our own life. We must be. No one else can write our own story.

It’s not up to anyone else to write our own story and if our story isn’t quite going the way we would like it to be, the only person who can change that is ourselves.

If someone else’s story isn’t going the way they would like it or you would like it for them. The only person who can change it is themselves and it is not for you to do or worry about. All that comes of this scenario is both parties have excuses to no longer take responsibility for themselves and their own lives.

I repeat

If someone else’s story isn’t going the way they would like it or you would like it for them. The only person who can change it is themselves and it is not for you to do or worry about. All that comes of this scenario is both parties have excuses to no longer take responsibility for themselves and their own lives.

“To believe in God or in a guiding force because someone tells you to is the height of stupidity. We are given senses to receive our information within. With our own eyes we see, and with our own skin we feel. With our intelligence, it is intended that we understand. But each person must puzzle it out for himself or herself.“ Sophy Burnham

Just a few months ago I started writing what I thought was a blog about my last 12 months. I was reflecting on the miracles I had witnessed and been part of and yet all I set out for back in August 2016 when my room was burgled while I was sleeping in it was to look after myself. To show myself genuine care and let go of all the things that I thought I had to carry for others.

I couldn’t stop writing. Words were flowing out of me as fast as I could type them with my right thumb working in super speed mode tapping against my new iPhone. (My laptop was never replaced as my insurance company refused to cover it while I was living in Langa) The next thing I noticed the time and it was 530 in the morning. I had been writing for 12 hours. Finally I succumbed to tiredness but before shutting down I forwarded what I had written to Steve Cragg a man who had become a genuine friend, and more, we were brothers ever since he interviewed me for The Legacy Project: http://successness.com/2017/09/john-mcinroy-great-south-african-change-agent-social-entrepreneur-ultra-athlete-and-philanthropist/
He subsequently interviewed me on his podcast: https://m.soundcloud.com/swede-cragg/john-mclnroy-podcast-301017mp3 and invited me to talk at his conference called Successness. This was my talk about Letting Go: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=jPGPPc6T_kk

He responded as soon as he had read it and invited me to meet him for lunch. That evening he was flying to UK so I felt really touched he was willing to meet me. He felt he had to deliver this message in person. He told me

“Bodhi don’t you dare publish this…. (awkward silence) …. this is not a blog. No way man. This is your first book”

Less than a month later I emailed him a 77,000 word manuscript of my first book all written on the same iPhone. Now I am a few weeks away from (self) publishing my first book having been working night and day with an incredible editor, friend and brother whom I met in September 2016 soon after I let go of what others wanted/ expected of me and started to take responsibility for myself.

The greatest teaching I want to share with you about writing a book is that all you have to do is


(and the more you write the better you become; this applies to anything, you can replace write with play the guitar, teach yoga, speak French, anything at all; read Malcolm Gladwell’s book Outliers if you need proof)

No one can do it for you.

Perhaps this applies to your life too.



Somehow we have been told to fear the unknown. But there is definitely one thing more scary than the unknown and that’s the known.

Just look around

Global warming

The world is counting on you

Ps. There are other unexpected gifts of writing.

You don’t need much external resources to write. It is not just for rich or privileged people. Although some countries literacy rates are terrifying low. This just reiterated the importance of education and specifically early childhood development which is something I hope Unogwaja is part of enabling more people to be the authors of their own lives.

Words not expressed within us are like the salt packed to the top of a salt shaker, so tightly packed that nothing can ever come out or in or even move. I call this MIND-FULLNESS. The moment you take out a bit of salt so there is some space, the salt flows out of there freely and there is room for something new to enter. Much like if you make some room by writing what is inside you instead of leaving it in there, unfulfilled, taking up space and not allowing flow to happen. That’s exactly what happens when you write. Flow. Creativity. And the best thing is you don’t have to “do” anything. It just happens to you. Through you.

“To know what you prefer instead of humbly saying Amen to what the world tells you you ought to prefer, is to have kept your soul alive.“ Robert Louis Stevenson



About Bodhi

In conventional speak, John McInroy is a South-African born social activist, humanitarian, social entrepreneur, ultra endurance athlete, international field hockey player, actor and vegan yogi. In more authentic terms, Bodhi is a human you may see walking the streets barefoot trying to find new ways to tread as lightly as possible.


  • Nona Keet says:

    I loved reading this, can’t wait for the book.

  • Shelley says:

    Let Go of What Others Think – Dec , 2016
    “We may start to see we don’t need anything that is not already here to experience joy and happiness and gratefulness, and who knows we may even begin to feel more kindness, more compassion and more human and see this in others.”

    The only time we should ever look back is to see how far we’ve come – Unknown

    Your blog is a fitting testament of how incredibly liberating it can be to take ownership of your story!
    Thank you for sharing and inspiring others to do the same ♡

  • Vikas says:

    Thanks for writing this John. Unogwaja has brought about such a positive change in my own life and i am now working towards changing aspects of my own life that i should have quiet some time ago. To put simply i am so glad that our paths crossed !!

    Loom forward to meeting you again and reading your book. 🙂

  • Andy Steele says:

    Thanks mate. Your blog was an awesome Xmas blessing.
    Looking forward to reading your book brother👍😆

  • Bela says:

    Beloved Bodhi,

    Happy to hear your words will find a way into this beautiful world, keep celebrating and indeed no-ne else knows but you 😉 right??!! Much love Bela

  • Greg Phare says:

    I am excited for you. I am looking forward to getting my hands on the book. See you in Berlin soon! Much love always. GP

  • Luisa says:

    Bodhi you never cease to amaze me. Thank you for yet another amazing piece of insight. I will read your book!
    Love from Argentina.

  • Connie says:

    You truly stand out! I look forward to the book. Many would have been discouraged by lost laptop but you rose above that challenge. That makes the book even more special!

  • KP says:

    Proud of you brother… looking forward to reading you… love is, kp

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